Dear stress, let’s break up. At least for Christmas.

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“I love the holidays. They are so peaceful and happy.” – You.

Here are some tips on how to keep the holidays meaningful and reminders on how to let the stress go with information from the No Stress Foundation and the Center for the New American Dream.

5 Ways to a Meaningful / No Stress Holiday

1. Don’t forget to breathe. 

Usually when we are stressed, we forget to breathe. It’s simple. Consciously breathing will allow your body and mind to be more relaxed … We promise. This works!

2. Ask for help when you need it. 

Communicating your needs and asking for support whether it’s help wrapping presents, washing dishes, cooking, or a ride to the airport, is a great way to take care of stress. Solution? When someone asks “can I help with that?” (and you need help) … say yes.

3. Spend within your means.

The holiday season is meant to be loving and joyful and can sometimes get overshadowed by the pressure to give. Knowing (and honoring) your limits is one of the most important ways that we can live a No Stress life … and remember, gifts don’t always have to come in a box … here are some alternative (meaningful) gifts suggestions courtesy of the Center for the New American Dream

  • Give the gift of time by making a custom gift card for a service (babysitting, car washing, pet sitting, chores, fixing dinner, etc).
  • Share a skill. If you can knit, offer to teach someone. Same if you play a mean banjo, pick hot stocks, or whip up gourmet meals.
  • Consider shopping for used items for gifts.
  • Give back to your community. Put together care packages for the homeless, or donate time to your favorite nonprofit.
  • Cap family holiday spending at $100. Journalist Bill McKibben, author of “The End of Nature,” says this limit forces families to be resourceful about their gifts and spending.
  • Consider alternative gift-giving. For roughly what you might spend on a new video game, you could educate a child for a year in some remote parts of the world. That’s just one of the many alternative gifts to consider atWorld Concerns global gift guide. Or, for what you might spend on an iPad mini, you can defray the cost of a deep well to provide children drinkable water. You can give similar gifts of education and food at Alternative Gifts International.

4. Do things because you WANT to (not because you HAVE to).

The holidays can be decked with obligation – you can keep it jolly by replacing the  “should’s” and “have to’s” with “I can’t wait to do that” … and by the way, it’s o.k. to say no every once in a while.

booklet_cover_20125. If the drama comes, let it go. 

Let’s be honest, the holidays will present some drama. Solution: See step #1, followed by letting it go … Seriously, this works too!

For more tips on keeping the meaningful in the holidays and letting the stress go, click here for your Free “Simply the Holiday Guide” and remember to breathe.

Happy Everything!

Are you Taking Care of the Most Important Relationship you Have?

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Like all of us, I have many important relationships in my life. They all start the same way, with an unexplainable, beautiful connection that is love in its purest form. It’s crazy how you can have something so amazing with little or no effort.

We are taught that the more you add to things, the better they should get, but connection, honestly may be just the opposite. As we add time, circumstances and life, fear and insecurity, those connections can be dramatically diminished, and sometimes completely lost and nowhere to be found. This can be very frustrating, to say the least.

Just as my connection to others is essential in my life, the relationship between me and my intuition may be the most important one. We have a pretty amazing relationship overall and can be a pretty powerful team, literally making things appear like magic (even surprising ourselves sometimes). HOWEVER, if things are not good between us, we can do some pretty impressive damage… and we work fast!

About six months ago, I found myself in a familiar place, heading down that dark alley way and slowing being enveloped by fear (I hate when that happens). That place where you can’t make a decision, where it’s hard to look in the mirror because, well, you’re not there.

On this one particular day, I decided to look at myself anyway, and literally said to myself, “You are not going there again. Go take care of yourself, once and for all!” Seriously, enough is enough.

I mean, I do yoga, meditate and I am a wellness professional myself, but to be honest, was I really doing all I could do to keep my intuition strong, to nurture it? The answer was no. Do any of us really give it the attention it deserves?

So, I started caring for it, taking away all of the things that get piled up on top of it and bringing it back to that pure, connected place I mentioned in the beginning of this story.

Long story short, in the last six months of working with an intuitive wellness counselor, Jenna. Think about that, “intuitive wellness”. I love that!  I have been so inspired by her, I have started my own rapidly growing business living out my passion, I am in a beautiful relationship, and seem to be calling a truce on the battle against me and my old self-sabotaging patterns. Seriously magic.

Now, intuitive wellness is simply part of my overall routine (why wouldn’t it be?), along with eating healthy, running and going to yoga. What working with Jenna has reinforced is that NO MATTER what we allow to cover up our intuition, it is always there. It is our job, and no one else’s to protect it and keep it strong. If you do this, every time you look in the mirror, you will see yourself. And when we really see ourselves, our truths, we realize that anything is possible, because, it is.

To learn more about Intuitive Wellness, I strongly encourage you to contact Jenna at Tune in Solana Beach, California. She is wonderful and will support you to find something you thought you may have lost. Don’t worry, it’s not lost, you just have to give it a little love. ♥

Be free. It starts with a truthful answer to one question.

I have been talking to my friend almost daily for the past few weeks. She has been stuck (a.k.a. the opposite of free), in that place, with that feeling.

You know that feeling? The one where you have feel like you are completely stuck and have no connection with yourself or others. Everything just seems to be getting worse and worse. You look in the mirror and want to scream at yourself …  “where the hell did you go?” It’s the worst! … and as alone as we feel at that moment, what we tend to forget is, it happens to all of us from time to time.

In one of our conversations, I asked her, o.k. seriously girl, what do you want? I mean really? She couldn’t answer that question. Then I asked her in the nicest way possible, “Well, honestly, why are you so surprised you’re in this place?”  

I suggested that she be truthful about where she is now. Then contemplate what she wants next. Journal about it, and when she finds the answer, just ask for it. Literally, sit down and say “universe, God, whatever”, this is what I want. And to be very specific (a mistake I have often made – whoops). Ask as often as you can. Hell, tell everyone what you want. Strangers, whoever. It’s really this simple.

I told her that once she did this, everything would fall into place … I promised her that. I am not a guru or genius, but I have seen it happen over and over. I trust in that, so yes, I can promise that it will work. I also told her that whatever was happening to her right now was happening for a reason (cliché’? yes, but true). There were lessons to be learned, lessons that were the vehicles for bigger change. So, be there, make the investment in being truthful with yourself, and for God’s sake, figure out what you want.

Although she listened, I don’t know if she really believed me. Until last night … I got a phone call.

I could literally feel the energy over the phone, “Oh my God, it’s crazy!!! Everything is falling into place!!!” She asked for what she wanted, and she got it (and so much more) only a week later. A new job with purpose (after 7-months of unemployment) and seriously like five other major things. She was back in it.

What’s interesting, is that above and beyond the fact that she was getting what she wanted, the greater excitement came from what also happened in her week of speaking the truth of what she wanted. She was attracting all of these other people who were in the exact same place at her. All of a sudden she realized she wasn’t alone. Doors were opening everywhere. And it seemed like everywhere she looked, people kept asking her what she wanted. She was not escaping this question. (Hmmmm. Funny how things works).

I told her what was likely to happen next … good things were going to keep happening, so be ready for it. And don’t forget to breathe (See: breathing is underrated for more on that). That’s the way life is supposed to work. It’s supposed to be good, abundant, and full of the things we really want. You are supposed to feel happy and free.

There is one catch. You have to be truthful with yourself about what you want … and when you are, you will see yourself in the mirror again (and chances are you’ll get it).

P.S. Interestingly enough, even though I was speaking to her regarding her situation, today as I was writing this, I realized the whole time I was actually speaking (um, maybe slightly yelling) to myself as well. Again, funny how things work. So, if you are reading this, my little manifestor of good things, I thank you, with much love.