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Written by new blog contributor, Jenn Perell.
Struggling with decision-making? Me too.
I work with a lot of people who are trying to make decisions and create change in their lives. As a coach, I guide them in figuring out their own best possible solution to their situations. When it comes to my own life; however, I sometimes forget to take my own advice and listen to that voice within that is a pretty great compass guiding me in the right direction. So in struggling with change and how to make decisions, I’d like to remind myself and share 3 simple strategies I find the most helpful.decisions don’t make themselves.
Step back and create some space to see the bigger picture.
Sometimes we can get caught up in the day to day and forget what we really want in our lives or how we ended up where we are. If your decision feels impassable, I invite you to step away from that and check in with life. What is your life purpose? What do you want to see happen in your world in the next few years? (Outside of whatever issue is pressing.) What are your BIG phat life goals? Now, how does the issue and your potential decisions around it affect the bigger picture? Does this serve you or hinder your progress on your path? Sometimes we have to give up something that seems important at the moment in favor or something that we know ultimately has more meaning…
2. BE PRESENT.
Live in the now. Are you happy right now?
We sometimes get so wrapped up in creating the future of our dreams that that we forget to live in the present. Stop and check in. Are you happy right now? If not, make a change. Unfortunately, this perspective can be easily misconstrued. Being present is clutch, but living from creating momentary happiness can be a bit self-sabotaging… I say this from experience. My motto at the beginning of the year was, “I do what I want”. It was kind of fabulous. Yet… life fell by the wayside, and the more I “did what I want” the more stressed I felt. Not to say that it wasn’t liberating – it was FUN, but it was also sort of like… cheating on myself. While the freedom was somewhat satisfying, I was left very unfulfilled. Being present is much more than just making yourself happy moment by moment. It is being with the happy and the sad, being in pure and clear awareness of what is really going on. The question, “Are you happy right now?” has had a significant impact on my life personally, but it must be used in conjunction with the BIGGER PICTURE. Use presence to alert you to when and how you can make “happy right now” coincide with “the bigger picture”.
Listen to the whisper from within.
There is so much noise in the world, so many opinions, so many options. Listen to what matters. Depending on the change that you are making, outside influence may have a large or small impact on your decision. In either case, there are other people who will be affected by your decision. Communicate with these people and listen to their concerns, ideas, and suggestions. Can you just listen without overlaying their words with your opinions? This is an art to cultivate. Then let all those voices and ideas go, and take some quiet time to yourself to listen from within. You can call it meditation, you can call it crazy. I invite you to try on crazy and listen to the Voice within. At first, you might find that there are many voices. Little voices of doubt and concern and judgement – and then there is the one that is right. You know it when it speaks. It just feels right. It takes quiet and presence to hear it and feel it. Listen.
Live. Laugh. Love. I’m a yoga instructor and life coach pursuing a master’s degree in Holistic Health Education. I’m being showered with a wealth of knowledge and I love to share. Live lightly and thrive! www.liveweal.com